Dear Dr. B: Too Busy to Date

Topic: on-line dating
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Q   Dear Dr. B.
I had a relationship break up a few months ago and now I'm pretty much dateless. I don't meet women at work and I don't have time for dating by trial and error. I tried on-line dating but it didn’t work out for me. I'm considering trying it again but the number and types of sites are overwhelming.
My question is: What do you think of on-line dating and what are the best sites?

                              Dateless and Too Busy

A   Dear Dateless 
Online assisted dating is efficient and a huge time saver. If you’re talking to a potential date online and find you don’t want to pursue further, you simply say, “I’m really not what you are looking for, good luck in your search.” Click.
 
The field has mushroomed with new and exciting possibilities. When you tried online dating in the past, you may have lacked all the information needed to conduct a quality online program. Or maybe you didn’t dedicate sufficient time to work your program. You must take responsibility for both the quality and the quantity of time spent on your program.
 
The two most popular types of on-line dating are General Dating and Matchmaking:
 
General dating is usually free. You post a photo and write a few lines or a short paragraph about yourself and what you hope to find in a date. You have the option of reviewing others' descriptions and photos or sitting back and waiting to see if anyone contacts you. This one isn’t my favorite because it is less likely than the others to find a match. It’s a bit like looking for a needle in a haystack. Also the general dating sites tend to be  plagued with people prone to scamming or initiating unwanted sex talk. Many would-be daters are turned off by general online dating as a way to meet Mr. or Ms. Right.
 
Matchmaking is my favorite for finding a compatible loving relationship at any age and with any interest. In matchmaking you complete a questionnaire designed to match you with people of similar interests, personality and character. You have to pay for the service, but it brings better results than the sites without a questionnaire. Because it does require a fee and completion of an extensive questionnaire it tends to eliminate those who are not serious about finding a quality relationship. Any email to you or from you goes through the company’s server so you don’t have to give out your email address until you think appropriate.
 
The internet is booming with new sights every week so check with Best Dating Sites to stay up to date on the top sites. Match.com and eHarmony are two that I favor as they have been around long enough to have data showing their effectiveness.

Best Dating Sites is a great website for dating articles and up-to-date information on the top matchmaking web sites. You’ll find them listed on my blog role. Currently the top sites are: 
 
1. Match.com
2. eHarmony
3. Perfect Match
4. Chemistry Match 

Best Dating Sites even lets you search for the top sites by Adult, Christian, Gay, Senior, International.

Let me know how this works for you. Remember, you can win at love!
Dr. B
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